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My self-summary
In my heart, I know these things to be true,

1. comfort is the enemy.
2. it is sometimes rewarding, or at least
worthwhile, to cozy up with your enemies over supper.
3. extremism is a.) largely harmful to the cause. b.) fun.
4. act from the heart.
5. the best defense is artful deflection.
6. neck rubs are nice, but stretching is much more effective.
7. you are not a good person just because you're less bad than bad people.
8. struggling. learn to love it.
it might not be what's good about life, but it's what's life about life.
9. you won't always be young, so appreciate the crap out of it
while you can.
10. mediocrity will not do.

I can get *deeply* into relaxing.

I won't go as far as saying I don't have issues, but I do a pretty good job of keeping them beaten into submission.

INFP, fwiw.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm not opposed to meeting someone amazing and seeing where that goes, but I'm not that social and meeting new people burns me out right quick.
Most of my network has scattered to the wind over the last few years, and I could definitely use more feminine-leaning people in my life

book craft
admiring animals
random crafts
I’m really good at
crafty/handsy things, very tedious acts, making breakfast at any time of day, using what's around, shape-shifting, seeing faces in everything ( + ruining perfectly splendid things for myself and others because of it), inconsistent capitalization, pegging, parallel parking, hyperbole, not swearing around children, being critical without being mean, extracting blackheads, making potentially dicey situations sound like wholesome fun, giving practical advice, being inexplicably well liked by animals, tricking shrimps with my camouflage, and waving at the sky with my wide lovely eyes.
The first things people usually notice about me
1. my wide, childish face
2. that I am enthusiastically acting like an idiot to entertain an animal.
3. the hummm of my bees.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
written stories: Obedience to Authority, Survivor, Perdido Street Station, Preacher, Struwwelpeter, Quantum Psychology, 100 Years Of Solitude, Jitterbug Perfume, Tortilla Flat, Neither Man Nor Beast, mating in captivity, mistakes were made (but not by me), Lonesome Dove, Spin, A Song of Ice and Fire,

talkies. Madame Tutli-Putli, Army of Darkness, There Will Be Blood, A Boy and His Dog, the Jungle book, the Dark Crystal, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Old Boy, Fantastic Mr. Fox, House, Disney's Robin Hood, O brother, where art thou?, the Holy Mountain, anything David Attenborough touched.

haunted picture box: The Daily Show, Carl Sagan's Cosmos, Futurama, Jam, Tim and Eric Awesome Show, Great Job!, Adventure Time, Green Wing, The Trip, Black Mirror, look around you, Rick and Morty, Xavier: renegade angel, King of the Hill, Trailerpark Boys, creature comforts, Louis, GoT

sound arrangers: The Bran Flakes, Nick Cave, Mike Patton, Ear Vomit, Tom Waits, Billie Holliday, Annette Hanshaw, Retarded Together, Lead Belly, Ween, Tool, Leonard Cohen, King Missile, Songs Ohia, Sun Ra, The Carter Family, Slick Pig, Leon Redbone, Melt Banana, Dead Western, Xploading plasiX, Édith Piaf, Jacques Brel, neptune, The Unicorns, Portishead, the Thieving Assholes, Scumbag Chandelier, The Books, Shpongle, Queen, David Bowie, Gogol Bordello, the sounds people make when overcome by emotion.

consumable power for pleasure: carrot cake, cynical-new-england-humor, green papaya salad, spicy curries, peanut butter and ricecakes, almond butter, coconut oil/milk, whole dates, brussel sprouts, peas, beets, meat from well treated animals, dried pineapple, bitter dark chocolate.
/sans gluten (which is in everything.)

optional and misc: fighting "like real men", sunflowers, poppies, orchids, dapper looking people of varying ages, taking care of people who appreciate it, meddling, hexagons, the number 4, laughing until I am worried for my life, merciless young ladies, exquisite tattoos, unfortunate tattoos, contradictions.
The six things I could never do without
1. the promise of my efforts will be rewarded with either a good meal, or great sex.

2. mutually beneficial animal companionship

3. a dictionary

4. shockingly approachable, totally awesome people

5. lush plant life

6. expression
I spend a lot of time thinking about
parents, words, bodies, different points of view/ "reality tunnels", advertising, psychology, sociology, education, clothing, progress, the past, the end of the world, language, inadequacies, the rise of the internet, improvement, the ego and egocentrism, genetics, my organs, your organs, tact, zombie attacks, covering my tracks, child development, context, the exact right thing to say, honey bees, Dawson's bees, Japanese Red Bugs, mantis shrimp, the borg, fashionable sexual fantasies, brain eaters, the collective unconscious/subconscious, discord, SPACE RAYS, shapes, different dimensions, animating, movement, fantastical costumes (and the fabrication of), the people around me, dear sweet wonderful charming Mr. Darcy, and abolishing television as it exists presently.
On a typical Friday night I am
Figuring out how to spend that Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll tell you all my secrets, but I'll lie about my past.
You should message me if
you're a compassionate weirdo who's not not married to the idea of a "normal relationship". you question everything and hone your ability to hear answers-- especially ones you don't like. you can express emotions and realize the only person responsible for your actions is you. you are somewhere on the queer spectrum.

Please don't message me about pegging unless you want advice. I'm not interested in making your fantasies come true unless I'm already super into you.


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