dream__brother
32 Providence, United States
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My self-summary
***UPDATE***
On the advice of a friend, I decided to start fresh with a new OKC profile. But I've had this one for so long that I'm not willing to just delete it. So if you're reading this, go find ADrinkGiver!
***END UPDATE***

Like many people, I've had some bad experiences with relationships. And roommates. Basically anything that involves changing my life to accommodate someone else. So for the past few years, I have been living alone, and intentionally single. It's been pretty good. And it's given me the time and space to be with myself, and evaluate things.

First: I realized that, in most of my intimate relationships, there was an imbalance of power right from the beginning. Either I would date someone I wasn't really into, because she was into me; or I'd give my heart to a girl completely, and for one reason or another, I'd get dumped, and crushed, and depressed.

Second: I've realized that living the solitary life isn't working out so great, either. I can cook, clean, and take care of myself, no problem, but I'm terrible at motivating myself to do anything else. Give me enough time alone, and I'll end up spending all my time on the Internet, and then feeling bad about it.

So here's my theory:
I need to be willing to enter into a relationship again. I think my life would be better with a significant other in it. BUT...I don't want to be with someone I think of as my girlfriend. I don't want to be someone else's boyfriend. What I want is a partner.

Someone I can think of as a friend, and an equal;
Someone who does not adhere to traditional gender roles;
Someone creative, preferably with professional interests similar to mine;
Someone who is loves their job, and/or is actively pursuing their passion;
Someone who will push me to do more, and become more, but who sometimes needs to be pushed themselves;
Someone who is not jealous or possessive;
Someone who wants to be with me, but does not need to be with me

I think I'm asking for a lot. And I think that identifying the kind of person I want to be with, while helpful, is no guarantee that I will ever find such a person.

But at least now, I have some idea of what I'm looking for.
What I’m doing with my life
Three years ago, I saw Sleep No More in Brookline. It was one of the most intense experiences I've ever had, and I realized that creating it was somebody's job. I knew right at that moment that I wanted it to be MY job.

Since then, I've gone back to college for theater tech and design, moved into a live/work studio, and spent a lot of time exploring different ways to create immersive theater.

...and, occasionally, I am a living statue.
I’m really good at
Making things out of other things.
Running late, but being REALLY prepared.
My pleasant speaking voice.
The first things people usually notice about me
"Holy crap, I thought that was a real statue!"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I usually just skim over this section when reading someone's profile.

Books: Love 'em.
Movies: Kinda picky.
Shows: Thanks to Netflix, I'm 3 years behind on current TV shows.
Theater: At least once a month.
Music: Currently, my Pandora is set to "Parov Stelar".
Food: Anything home-cooked.
The six things I could never do without
A destination
A vehicle
A map
[those three can be literal or metaphorical]
Clean clothes
Pen and paper
...and a towel.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The question I find myself asking most often is "How?" How does it work? How is it made? How can I help? How will I know? How can I make that happen?

I also think a lot about whatever projects I have to finish for an upcoming larp event.
On a typical Friday night I am
...probably playing online games. But if I have someone to hang out with, I'd love to go out and do something. I especially like getting drinks and seeing live music at The Salon in downtown Providence.

You know what else is fun? Getting together with some friends and drinks to play Cards Against Humanity. It gets RIDICULOUS.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If I had the chance to go back in time and live my life again, knowing what I know now, I absolutely would. And everything would be different.
You should message me if
You are willing to meet in person. I spend too much time in front of the computer already, let's go out and do something!

You think we could collaborate on creative projects.

You can teach me something new. I feel it's important for people to challenge and learn from each other.

You often see things that make you say "Nature is AMAZING."
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