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My self-summary
Oh, hi there!

I'm an actor, photographer, and teacher. I enjoy spirited debate, especially with people I don't agree with. I am an admitted board game geek and will probably try to convert you to quality games if given an opportunity. I make groan-worthy puns and fantastic eggs.

I'm playing around with the idea of not being an actor anymore and chasing after the photography/design thing full-time. It's possible I watch way too much Mad Men and read way too much Augusten Burroughs, but I think I'd be really good at advertising if I could just learn to, you know, really LOVE being drunk all the time. Feel free to try to convince/dissuade me.

Finally: I am poly and married to a poly woman (the wonderful jessakins), hence the "available" rather than "single" status. You don't have to be poly for us to click, date, or have fun, but experience has shown me that it's easier if you are.
What I’m doing with my life
Jobwise, acting, teaching, and taking photos. Sometimes playwriting. Trying to do all of this at once without going insane.

Catwise: I have a cat named Juno. She thinks she is a dog and is very friendly, which is good because I grew up with dogs. She is asleep stretched across my lap even as I type this.

Samwise: there's some good in the world, and it's worth fighting for.
I’m really good at
Not getting lost (related: finding the best place to sit on the subway so as to facilitate a quick and efficient exit -- DON'T MOCK ME THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT).

Harmonizing any song I've heard once. Playing/faking it on the piano after hearing it twice. Not knowing the words even if I've listened to it a hundred times (a consequence of listening for the music, not the lyrics).


Making infants on the subway smile or stick out their tongues.

Apparently, writing OKCupid tests. I won an ipod shuffle for my Are You A Movie Spoiler? quiz!
The first things people usually notice about me
My big smile.

My curly hair. I don't know why you're all so jealous of it. It only comes in two styles -- short and jewfro -- and much like water, quickly takes the shape of whatever it's poured into.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This section keeps getting larger as I check out other peoples' profiles and realize I forgot something.

Books: I'm always reading something, but don't have a favorite and probably never will. Currently writing a YA book (isn't everyone?); feel free to ask me about it!

Movies: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Unforgiven, Amadeus, Chicago, Silence of the Lambs, Casablanca. Casablanca is required viewing for all humans as far as I'm concerned -- if you haven't seen it I will gladly bring a DVD over and fix this. Pixar movies make me cry and I love them all, even Cars, but especially The Incredibles, which I think has the best characters of any of their films.

TV: The Jon Stewart / Stephen Colbert Power Hour, HIMYM, 30 Rock, Mad Men, Arrested Development, Mythbusters, classic Twilight Zone. Battlestar Galactica was great until the last half-season. Archer and Bob's Burgers for all my H Jon Benjamin-based needs. Orphan Black for all my Tatiana Maslany-based worship. Also, yes, Project Runway -- take that, otherwise typical demographic pattern! -- though it's taken a turn for the lousy in recent years.

Music: very eclectic. I'm a sucker for anything with a piano or nifty harmonic progressions. Ben Folds, Jonathan Coulton, and Fiona Apple are always on my play list along with Regina Spektor, The Decemberists, and Pentatonix . Classical music, too, especially Beethoven, Chopin, and Brahms. And pretty much any 60's vintage pop/rock/folk like Simon & Garfunkel, CSNY, Joni Mitchell, and The Mamas & the Papas.

And The Beatles. Does that even need to be said?

Podcasts: I religiously listen to Savage Love, This American Life, Wait Wait, Don't Tell Me, and Radiolab. Oh, NPR, where would I be without you? Also The Nerdist Podcast is hilarious and I'm catching up on all the back episodes.

Food: I will try anything once, and like most of it. I like spicy things and sweet things especially. Some favorites: Indian food, pad thai, pizza with pineapples, strawberries, Trader Joe's peanut butter cups (AMAZING). I am always excited to discover a good, appropriately dive-y hamburger joint.
The six things I could never do without
A book to read, my bike, bad jokes, a way to look up the answer to something, mint, performance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Evolutionary explanations for everyday behaviors.

How to take a picture of that cool thing.

The song that I've been teaching in my elementary glee club that is now stuck in my head (currently: Octopus's Garden)
On a typical Friday night I am
Rehearsing or performing. Sometimes taking pictures somewhere. Seeing someone else in the indie theatre world perform in their show (there's always a show), or taking pictures of them.

Or maybe seeing a movie! Either it makes me laugh, or it makes me think, and either way I'll want to talk about it afterwards -- that part's really important.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once killed a cactus through neglect. Yes, I failed to sufficiently water a CACTUS. My family still teases me about this. I like to think I've gotten better, as none of my students or pets have since died of thirst. That I know of.

Also, I hate leaving voicemail. There's just something very unsettling about talking to a beep. Unless it's urgent, I'll hang up and call again later. This is also why these answers sound alternately trite and self-conscious.
You should message me if want to see how awesomely witty I can be when I'm not filling in boxes but instead talking to a live human being. Like you. Unless you're a voicemail robot. Then don't message me pretending to be a human. 'Cause I'll totally know. liked (or hated!) my test, Are You A Movie Spoiler?. Seriously, I'd love some feedback. are polyamorous / in an open relationship / open to being open. I've found that generally other poly women and I get along best, but dating is like mutual funds and late-night diet pill ads: past history is not always an indicator of future performance. So you don't have to be in a poly group/couple yourself, but statistically it is likely to help if that's how you self-identify. want to know what it's like to be an atheist polyamorous Hebrew school teacher with a Rabbi for a dad.